Everyone falls short sometime

Life is too rough not to believe in something at the end of the day.  It's hard to have relationships with people because people will fall short. People will hurt you. Even if they have the best intentions at heart, people won't always act the way you think they should. Frankly, sometimes people don't deserve you.

We have a relationship with God and we hurt him. We fall short and we don't always do the things we should do. However, God will never forsake you no matter what. Proverbs 24:16 says "A man falls seven times but rises back up again." No matter what you do or how much you hurt the Lord, it's never too late. His mercy endures forever. He will forgive you with no condemnation.

We owe it to God to forgive the people that hurt us.  We shouldn't carry a burden of anger around for anyone. We receive all the chances we ask for with God.  We owe it to him to follow in the likeness of him and have mercy on the wrongdoers.

The Comfort of Venting

It's like release therapy when we're able to finally let our true emotions out to an outsider.  We find comfort in venting.  When we have issues within our relationship we tend to vent to other women.  We feel better when we are running our mouths about our problems to a girlfriend rather than communicating our emotions with our man.   As women we understand each other far better than men seem to.   So, having that talk with our man seems more like a daunting task than a movement in the right direction. 

Now, there may be some repercussions form venting your problems to a friend, because after all, her loyalty is to you, not him.  Your friend may start to have negative thoughts and feelings towards him because of the things you have told her in confidence.   If you are talking bad about your man to her then you may be sending a message that it is okay for her to bash him.  Once the issue is resolved and you and your man are in a good place she still might be thinking about all the negative things he’s done, and may not let you forget either. 

For the record, I’m not saying that all women do that.  I have a best friend that I can tell anything to and she doesn’t judge and doesn’t ever say anything negative about my relationship because she respects it and my feelings.  However, from my experience, most people feed on negative energy and will try to keep it afloat. 

Some things are better kept between the two people in the relationship. That eager sensation to share your business with others should be suppressed.  Sometimes it helps to vent, but everyone is not trustworthy.   So, be careful who you run your mouth to because Haters Hate Love.  Do you ever find yourself in a situation you don't like because you've ran your mouth to the wrong person? What's your philosophy behind this issue?

Platonic Intentions

“He’s just a friend.” “She’s just a friend.” Followed by the, “I swear nothing has ever happened between us.” This is what you may find your mate saying when you question their friendship with the opposite sex. Naturally you may question your mate’s relationships with the opposite sex but, if they truly are “just friends” then you will know. Most people have intentions in mind when they are dealing with someone. If their intentions are to be romantically involved with their so-called “friend”, then it won’t be too long before the truth surfaces.




I’ve had many male friends who have been great until they tried to cross the friendship line. For men and women, being platonic friends is not an easy feat. According to an article by Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D., men and women can’t be “just friends”. He states that it’s harder for men to define intimate relationships with women as non-sexual due to their species evolution. To be “just friends” goes against their DNA. Also, men are more sexual beings, therefore, your male friend has probably thought about having sex with you at one time or another.




According to science it is not likely that men and women can be “just friends”. However, there is an exception to every rule. I have been friends with a heterosexual man for 15 years. We are truly like brother and sister. There is no way either one of us would ever cross that line. Contrary to popular belief, men and women can be friends. If a man and a woman genuinely want to be friends, then it is possible. The problem is not that women and men can’t be friends; the problem lies with finding someone with platonic intentions.


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