"Bad" Fashion

If you don't see BAD TEACHER for anything other then the fashion Cameron Diaz flaunts in this movie,  you won't be disappointed. From the redbottoms, diva shades and the leather jacket Bad Teacher scores all good points in wardrobe.  Take a look at some of the outfits that inspired me.

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 It's all about the attitude and how Cameron Diaz's character wears the outfits. I am so inspired that I am going to do some posts with my version of these outfits. Stay Tuned.

Why do I keep dating Mr. All Wrong?

Carrie Bradshaw had a man that treated her wrong for years. After years of heart break and being in persuit of him, he gave in and she finally got what she longed for, Mr. Big. Sex and the city is not reality and although it is possible, who really wants to force a man love you?   If you find yourself dealing with a "Mr.Big" you could be settling for Mr.Wrong.

Do you find yourself depressed, tired and engaged in an emotional turmoil every time you're with this guy? Are you wondering "What's wrong with me?" or  "What did I do to deserve this?"  If so, you may be making some of the same mistakes with different men.  There are some common mistakes many women innocently make in their relationships with Mr. All Wrong.  If you answer yes to any of these questions then you may need to revise the way you handling your affairs.

1.   Are you dating someone who is not emotionally available?

2.  Are you ignoring the signs ?

3.  Are you recycling the same men ?

4. Can he reach you but, you can't reach him ?

5. Is he always making up excuses for why he can't commit ?

6. Does he keep cheating on you ?

7. Are you frowning majority of the time that you're in his presence ?

8. Are you the only one fighting for the relationship ?

9. Do you use sex as a tool to keep him around ?

10. Has he led you on and dropped you like a bad habit multiple times ?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions it doesn't mean you're in a terrible relationship.    There are different kinds of dynamics that make relationships what they are. Know your worth, respect yourself and always follow your intuition.

Single Status

Over the years having the single status has been referred to as a curse and a blessing. Some women pride themselves on the fact that they are single independent women who refuse to settle. Some women are tired of proving to the world that she can take care of herself and are ready to let a man take care of her and some women are just ready for love.

Is your single status an honor or a plague? If you’ve been single for long enough to get to know exactly who you are then I am sure you already know what you want in a man.  Are you single because you choose to be or are you choosing not settle until you find Mr. Right?  What is holding you back from being in a relationship?

Being single is fun but, at the end of the day every woman wants to be loved by someone other than family and friends. We want that special one. You have to admit that to yourself before you can begin to open up and let that special person in. If you are truly open and ready for all the possibilities that come with love which include, commitment, honesty, vulnerability, trust and pain then a relationship isn’t far off.

What you believe will come out some way subconsciously. If you aren’t open to new things people can read that from you and as a result they will be more hesitant to talk to you.  When trying to find love you cannot be closed off because your perfect man may not be exactly how you expect him to be. Be open to new people and new adventures and love will open up to you.

So what’s your single status?

Where are all the good men?

Good men are hard to find. The saying is still true to this day. I know the saying is cliché, but let's be honest good men aren't exactly raining from the sky above. If it was raining men I'm sure all the available gay men would've already scooped them up anyways. If you're single, if you're not single or if you're in an "it's complicated," I'm sure you have already dated around enough to know that a lot of guys out there just aren't worth the time. Some guys play games, some lead you on and some just don't know how to treat a woman. Why does it seem like there aren't any good men anymore?

Times have changed. Women are taking on the responsibilities as the head of the household, single parent homes are now the norm and people are now meeting their mate off the Internet. It seems like when it comes to relationships things are changing for the worse. So why should we expect the results to be any different when trying to find a good man?

The reality of it is, men are getting lazy and women are accepting it (of course there are always exceptions). When you think about it, being a good man takes hard work. A good man has to be disciplined enough to be loyal, patient enough to respect your boundaries, understanding enough to respect your values, chivalrous enough to treat you like a lady, he has to be trustworthy, appreciative and the list goes on. If this was easy to achieve there would be a lot more good men out there and way less jerks. 

We as women play a part in the demise of good men as well. We have allowed men to get away with being jerks. Think about it... Men will do just about anything to impress a woman. They used to court a woman they were interested in. They used to have to work to get a woman. Now, it seems like women have lowered their standards and are okay with not getting courted. Women are acting like cubic zirconiums instead of the true rare gems that they truly are.

Before a man will understand your worth you have to know you’re worth it. If you act like less then you are, don't be surprised when he follows suit. If a man doesn't have to do anything extra to get with a woman he definitely won't. It's human nature not to work hard for something that can easily be handed to you; this is why someone coined the phrase "work smarter not harder". If women started giving men a challenge again, I know men would rise to the challenge because that's what they're hard-wired to do.

Yes, there will always be the type of girl who will accept a man with too many liabilities; however that doesn't have to be you. You deserve more. If you know that, you will attract someone who believes the same.