There are times in relationships when you start to question a person’s intentions. No matter how strong your relationship is, sometimes you need reassurance. When people get comfortable they tend to start talking without the sensor. You begin to see the real person and how they truly are. The person is no longer on their best behavior and they are comfortable showing you their true self. In your relationship he is going to say things that piss you off, he will say things that make you uncomfortable, and he will say things that make you question his love for you. In all fairness, you will say things that do that too. This is when you get in your feelings and start to become emotional when it may not be necessary/This is when you get in your emotions and start acting irrationally.
When you’re in a relationship about 40 % is logical and 60 % is emotional. I propose we become more logical in a relationship. If your boyfriend tells you one thing but does something different then always trust his actions before you trust his words; that’s logic. My boyfriend is a jokester so he says a lot of things for laughs. When I’m not in the playing mood sometimes I take his jokes too seriously against my better judgment. Later, I’ll think about them and start getting upset about what he’s said. In one of his non-joking moods he’s told me several times that his mom and his sister will always come before me no matter what. Naturally, at first I was content with that. However, the more involved we got the more I started feeling less like a priority and more like an option.
Despite the fact that I didn’t feel like a priority, his actions screamed that I was. Recently he bought me a beautiful promise ring that represented his love and dedication to our relationship. Then he moved 700 miles away from his family to be with me. For the first time I realized that I was a priority; he had finally put me first and I knew that because of his actions.
No matter what a man says, his actions will always foreshadow the man that he is and the man that he will be to you. Remember, it’s our actions that show our true feelings for the other person. In relationships would you rather him declare his love for you in words or through action?
your words are what bind you; Your actions are what define you. -M.H