Aug 5, 2011

The Dilema

He's perfect. He is a very successful business man. He has money, a nice house, he's attentive, loving and he spoils you every chance he gets. He has proved time and time again how committed he is to you and your relationship.  He truly loves you for who you are and you love him too.  There is only one problem... He has been married three times, has four kids and doesn't want to get married or have children ever again.

You have never been married nor had a child of your own. You decided long ago you so desperately want those things to happen in your lifetime with the man of your dreams.  Not to mention your last relationship of five years ended because your boyfriend wasn't ready to get married to you.  What do you do?

Do you stay in this relationship that has made you the happiest that you've been in years and deny yourself your ideal life?

Do you take a gamble and break up with him to find someone else?

What would you do?


  1. That is quite the dilemma, honestly, I dunno what to do. I probably would consider breaking up with him, for my sake, plus it's the most logical thing to do but I kinda tend to be a little unreasonable especially when it comes to love. It's going to take a while before I would have the courage to walk away and do what's right, but I see no point in staying in a relationship that's a stalemate.



  2. Honestly, I feel like we'd be in two different places in our lives. I know he's not going to be willing to change his plans just as I wouldn't be willing to sacrifice ever having children. It's not his fault he had so many already and that I didn't and vice versa. It would hurt, but instead of forcing someone to sacrifice what they want, I'd have to break it off.

  3. I know I would have to stay true to myself. If marriage is important to me then I wouldn't be able to settle.

  4. Hmmm, thats tough. We can all speculate what we'd do but like they say, you never know what you'll do til your faced with it.

    So imma say, have a serious discussion about why he feels that way and how i feel and/or go to couples therapy before we make a decision to just go our separate ways. If this man really makes me that happy, i'd want to make sure i explore every feasible option to keep us both happy before i throw in the towel. And clearly that dude has some issues if he was married 3 times and has 4 kids. So even if it doesn't work out for us, i imagine he'd at least benefit in some way from going to therapy.


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